In-Home Family Coaching - Individual Consultations                   - RCB Home Courses                     - RCB Child Care/Mentor Program Have you ever been in a situation with one of your children and wished you had In-Home Assistance? Finally, there's a way to achieve having the family that you always hoped for. It's based on tested results established over the past 25 years. As many of you are aware of the popular television shows that aim to aid a family in crisis mode, my RCB In-Home Service is a proactive approach to creating successful family relations. I will visit your home and help you remedy conflict, promote cooperation, peace and a sense of team within your family all while practicing RCB techniques in a loving and respectful manner. And best of all, I am so confident that the RCB methods will benefit your family that it comes with a MONEY BACK GUARANTEE! - Tarah Pearlman & Larry Sadiropoulus, Attorney - "I will be forever indebted to Hilde Gross for giving me the tools, knowledge and guidance to completely transform my family. The basic premise behind her individual coaching and seminars are a kinder, more gentle way of relating to your children. This has allowed me to be the type of mother that I had always envisioned I would be: patient, loving, understanding, yet able to establish and maintain clear boundaries. Working together with my children to set agreements that include clear expectations as well as predetermined consequences has virtually eliminated the need for power struggles, whining, arguing, and tantrums. Empowering our children to practice self calming techniques, employ a family team atmosphere, and conflict resolution techniques have instilled invaluable confidence in our children. Not only has this course positively affected our relationship with our children, but it has also strengthened my bond with my husband. We have both learned to listen to each other—really listen!!! We have learned to validate each other’s feelings in a way that makes us both feel “heard and understood.” Once this has been accomplished, there is little need to continue belaboring our individual points and we can begin to work toward a solution. I can not stop telling my friends and family about this course! I truly feel proud of the mother that I have become, and I am amazed by the patience, sensitivity and dedication that my husband displays toward our children." (For more testimonial scroll down.) There is NO RISK and only an improved family life to gain!        SIGN UP TODAY! Call Hilde: 619-379-7646 Email: Hilde@HildeRCB.com

TESTIMONIALS

- Charles & Pamela Brock
"Dear Hilde, Words cannot describe how beneficial the RCB course has been to our family. Despite reading dozens of books, we often felt more lost than inspired. After completing the RCB course we have seen dramatic improvements in our daughters behavior, her overall happiness, and our enjoyment of her company.
Several months later after we both took Hilde's RCB seminar, our daughter was having problems leaving her now growing baby sister alone. Nothing we did seemed to work, and we referred often to the RCB book. Exhausted with her behavior, we finally spent two hours with Hilde at our home, and received tools to control the behavior, and, more importantly, knowledge that our daughter was not possessed by the devil, but was acting normally… we had just not been applying the tools in the book properly. It was the most profitable two hours we can remember experiencing."

- Sarah Knapp (16 years old, 2009)
"Secrets to Successful Parenting is a very inaccurate business title, because throughout the work of Hilde Gross, "Secrets to Successful Loving" is probably the closest to the truth! By opening passages of communication we did not know were there, she strengthened not only our
relationship with each other,  but our relationship with ourselves and pushed my family in the right direction towards pure communication of thoughts, feelings, and intention of actions. Hilde has a wonderful program that guides us all in way of emotional intelligence inside a family."

- Donna & John, UCSD Math Professor
Dear Hilde, Once again, thank you for another excellent session you had with John, Rachel and me yesterday, we always get so much out of our meetings with you. It has been such a blessing to have your help and support over the last year. Rachel learned to cope with the difficult situation she had at school., and John and I learned how to help her deal with the problem then and in the future. I also want to make a special point of thanking you for discussing the teasing issue with John (very tactfully too I might add). I got nowhere trying to get him to stop the teasing, but he was willing to listen to you and may now modify his behavior as a result of your exchange. Thank you so much!!

- Amy & Nick, Counselors, San Diego
"My husband I are couselors and already knew alot about children's behavior. Still, we'd developed some bad parenting habits. In just one two-hour session, Hilde helped us to stop solving our children's conflicts for them. She also taught us to meet our children's needs for attention in easy, fun ways -- and their tantrums stopped. It was amazing!"

- The Fogerty's
"Hi Hilde, Well, we've have been working on the bedtime techniques and so far so good! The yelling and screaming are almost none! The peace and calmness is so much better. We thank you very much for the home visit. Even though we know you for a very short time, you feel like family to us. THANK YOU FOR PUTTING OUR FAMILY BACK TOGETHER! We love you!"

- Hank & Jenny Goodman, Attorney, San Diego
The In-Home Service was great because it gave us personal attention and we could focus on examples specific to our situation rather than in a group dynamic discussion topics that might not be relevant to our child. We intend to have Hilde back for refresher sessions in the future as we continue practicing the skills we were taught. We fee a lot more confident now and our child is doing much better at respecting the boundaries we have now established after completing the course with Hilde.

Article La Jolla Light (Feb. 2008) "Parenting Coach Can Help"

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Parenting coach can help! Feb 6, 2008 By Maria Connor - La Jolla Light
La Jolla parents have two opportunities to meet Hilde Gross, a certified family coach and Redirecting Children's Behavior (RCB) instructor who specializes in home visits. The first is free seminar on "How to Avoid Everyday Power Struggles" presented Monday, Feb. 11 from 6:15 - 7:45 p.m. at the Riford Library, 7555 Draper Ave.The second is a free introductory parenting workshop on Feb. 25 from 6:30 - 8 p.m. at Stella Maris Academy, 7654 Herschel Ave. The school will then offer two five-week workshops, one for parents and one for children."Having the tools to effectively deal with children's behavior, as a parent and as a child, is powerful. These are life skills," said Patricia Lowell, Stella Maris Academy principal. "During her sessions she presents a wealth of materials and explains the rationale for addressing children's needs. In addition, Hilde effectively demonstrates how to 'redirect' children's behavior in order to produce a successful outcome." Gross has been teaching RCB, an approach developed by Kathryn Kvols, whose strategies and philosophy were strongly influenced by Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D., for more than seven years. Gross uses the fundamentals of the course to give parents practical tips and effective tools to create respectful, healthy family relationships. After parents who had attended her workshops asked for additional coaching, Gross began offering home visits.Wendy Alexander, who lives in La Jolla with her 10-year-old son, sought help from Gross after separating from her husband. Facing the challenges of single parenting and the emotional upheaval of divorce, Alexander wanted to gain confidence in her parenting skills.She chose to meet with Gross in her home for several reasons. It allowed Gross to observe the setting and dynamics between Alexander and her son. On several occasions, Gross actually coached Alexander through tough situations."I didn't have to explain it," Alexander said. "She saw it."Alexander prefers the privacy and one-on-one focus home visits provide. The sessions with Gross keep Alexander focused on her priorities, namely her son.Mary Sidiropoulus, a single mother with a 7-year-old daughter, has been strengthening her parenting skills through home visits with Gross after participating in one of her workshops."The first class I was blown away," Sidiropoulos said. "I used everything she taught me, and I had the best weekend ever."Learning the skills is easy, said Sidiropoulos. Maintaining them is a lot harder. To keep herself from backsliding, she frequently re-reads the RCB handbook and meets with Gross every few weeks."The biggest benefit is it brought us closer," Sidiropoulos said. That sense of intimacy makes it easier for her to avoid feeling angry or resentful when a situation comes up, since she is able to empathize and validate her daughter's feelings.In turn, her daughter is learning to express her feelings with words and ask for what she needs.One of the most common problems Gross sees is parents not enforcing boundaries"That's one of the main things I discover when I go for a home visit," Gross said, adding that children need to know parents mean business. "That means following through with the consequences at the time, while staying kind and firm."The strategies Gross teaches are deceptively simple, yet incredibly effective. The key to success is taking action before a situation arises, so that parents can be proactive instead of reactive.Negotiation - establishing expectations and predetermining a consequence - eliminates the need for arguments, Gross said, automatically reducing one of parents' biggest mistakes: talking too much.Conversely, there are dialogues that parents should be having with children. Asking how a child feels about a situation or letting them suggest solutions to a problem encourages self-confidence, independence and personal accountability."That's what I'm most interested in," said Sidiropoulos, "so that (my daughter) grows up to be a healthy adult."With a client roster that includes pediatricians, marriage and family counselors, psychologists and teachers, Gross said no parent should be ashamed to seek out education. "It's important, not because people are bad parents, but because they want to be better parents," she said. "What parents don't know or aren't aware of is we influence a child's personality now into adulthood with the way we respond and discipline. The child learns the most from the person they love the most: you."For additional information, contact Gross at (619) 379-7646 or visit www.hildercb.com. Maria ConnorStaff writer for La Jolla Light, Del Mar Times, Solana Beach Sun, Carmel Valley Leader and Rancho Santa Fe Record.